Coming Home to Yourself
The Journey of Self-Love and Rediscovery
There comes a moment in life when you realize that the person you have been waiting for—the one who will truly see you, honor you, and love you unconditionally—has been with you all along. It is you.
For many, self-love feels like an elusive concept, something talked about in books and on social media but difficult to embody in real life. We chase relationships, achievements, and external validation, believing they will offer the sense of wholeness we crave. But there is an undeniable truth: the deepest healing happens when we turn inward.
The Struggle to Return to Ourselves
As a coach, I often hear variations of the same story: “I feel like I’ve lost myself.” Whether it’s through years of caregiving, bending to expectations, or chasing love from those who cannot fully offer it, many people wake up one day feeling disconnected from their own essence.
This is not failure. This is the invitation.
Losing ourselves is often part of the journey because it allows us to find ourselves in a way we never could before—this time, with awareness, intention, and deep self-compassion. It is a remembering.
The Grief and Beauty of Self-Rediscovery
Coming back to yourself is not always easy. There is grief in realizing how long you have abandoned your needs. There may be sadness in seeing where you have accepted less than you deserve. But alongside that grief, there is also an incredible beauty—the beauty of returning home.
Self-love is not about perfection. It is not about standing in front of the mirror reciting affirmations you don’t believe. It is about becoming the one who stays. The one who listens. The one who chooses, again and again, to be gentle with themselves.
Practical Steps to Reconnect with Yourself
If you are in the process of rediscovering yourself, here are a few steps that can help:
Meet Yourself With Compassion. Speak to yourself the way you would a dear friend who is learning something new. Self-criticism keeps you stuck; self-compassion moves you forward.
Honor Your Desires. What do you actually want? Not what you should want, but what truly brings you peace, joy, and fulfillment? Let this be your compass.
Practice Small Acts of Self-Belonging. Whether it’s setting a boundary, journaling, or simply placing your hand over your heart and whispering, I am here with you, these moments matter.
Grieve What Needs to Be Grieved. If you have spent years abandoning yourself, there may be sadness. Let yourself feel it without judgment. Healing requires witnessing the hurt, not bypassing it.
Recommit Daily. Some days will be easier than others. That’s okay. Self-love is not a finish line; it’s a relationship. And like any relationship, it requires attention, care, and patience.
The Reunion of a Lifetime
Derek Walcott’s poem Love After Love so beautifully captures this moment—the sacred reunion with the self.
"You will love again the stranger who was yourself.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself."
You are not a project to be fixed. You are a home to return to.
And no matter how far you have wandered, you are always welcome back.
Are You Ready to Reconnect With Yourself?
If this message resonates with you, I invite you to go deeper with your self-love journey:
✨ Experience a Private Breathwork Session – Join me for a guided breathwork experience designed to help you release old patterns and reconnect with your true essence. [Sign up here!]
Download my Free Self-Love Journaling Guide
with prompts to help you reflect, heal, and return to yourself.
You are worthy of love, especially your own. And no matter where you are on this journey, you are not alone.
I’d love to hear your thoughts—what does self-love mean to you? Drop a comment or share your reflections with me.
